Some people get extremely nervous at the thought of talking to unfamiliar people. A thought of talking to unknown faces leads to a flutter in their stomach. Extreme amount of shyness can have a serious cascading effect on the social life of people. Social anxiety is a common problem in millions of people, who suffer from this disorder at some point in their lives. Treatment for this disorder exists in the form of cognitive behavioral cure.
Scientists actually thought that the family's environment directly impacted the emotional growth of the children while they morph into adults. It is now clear that some people are shy by nature. Some people are able to manage and overcome this but some continue to suffer till the end of their lives. In today's times, one doesn't need to mingle face to face and can do social interactions virtually. Thanks to the internet and its associated characteristics like email interaction and computer gaming, the social interaction potential is greatly reduced. In order to cure this disorder, there are many things one can do to overcome its negative effects.
Firstly, you need to find out what triggers the chain of thoughts in our mind. You can't be feeling shy in all situations. When do you really feel uncomfortable? Pose a question for yourself about this at the beginning itself. Does your mind start making negative predictions on its own without any logic? Try and challenge the negative thoughts before you start believing them and accepting them as true.
As a shy person, you need to start ingraining the thought the what you are thinking is only a guess. Do not focus too much on anything that reconfirms your belief on anxiety. Instead, shift your focus and attention on something that is opposite. In reality, one cannot please everyone at the same time.
Summon your guts to face the situation head on. Exposure is the best way to fight it since you yourself place yourself in situations where you encounter anxiety and shyness. Start facing your fears repeatedly so that you become accustomed to them, which will eventually lessen the grip and disappear. The end objective should be start facing the what you fear the most so that it appears simple to you. Even though, this may lead to hiccups in the beginning but it is a good idea to start doing it as soon as possible. Do not delay this as it will lead to more challenges for you.
Shyness happens to be a personality characteristic and not a psychological imbalance or disorder. It has varying degrees of shyness. Some people simply can't face crowd and then there are some who want to live like hermits, totally cut off from the world. That's not the way one should be living their life. Some shy people treat shyness as a cocoon. The cocoon provides them warmth, quietness and aloofness. At the same time, it is very dark, lonely and confining.
Ask the family and friends to support and guide you. When faced with difficult situations, rely on them to seek pointers and guidance. When you are aware that there is someone out there to support you, life becomes much easier. Slowly and gradually, you will see that you are losing your fears and inhibitions. After gaining a social life, it will be interesting to see how easy it is to meet new people.
In order to overcome shyness, you can try out multiple things. If you want to make shyness a thing of past, start taking one step a day or week. While these pointers are good, there is more that can be done to erase shyness. - 31877
Scientists actually thought that the family's environment directly impacted the emotional growth of the children while they morph into adults. It is now clear that some people are shy by nature. Some people are able to manage and overcome this but some continue to suffer till the end of their lives. In today's times, one doesn't need to mingle face to face and can do social interactions virtually. Thanks to the internet and its associated characteristics like email interaction and computer gaming, the social interaction potential is greatly reduced. In order to cure this disorder, there are many things one can do to overcome its negative effects.
Firstly, you need to find out what triggers the chain of thoughts in our mind. You can't be feeling shy in all situations. When do you really feel uncomfortable? Pose a question for yourself about this at the beginning itself. Does your mind start making negative predictions on its own without any logic? Try and challenge the negative thoughts before you start believing them and accepting them as true.
As a shy person, you need to start ingraining the thought the what you are thinking is only a guess. Do not focus too much on anything that reconfirms your belief on anxiety. Instead, shift your focus and attention on something that is opposite. In reality, one cannot please everyone at the same time.
Summon your guts to face the situation head on. Exposure is the best way to fight it since you yourself place yourself in situations where you encounter anxiety and shyness. Start facing your fears repeatedly so that you become accustomed to them, which will eventually lessen the grip and disappear. The end objective should be start facing the what you fear the most so that it appears simple to you. Even though, this may lead to hiccups in the beginning but it is a good idea to start doing it as soon as possible. Do not delay this as it will lead to more challenges for you.
Shyness happens to be a personality characteristic and not a psychological imbalance or disorder. It has varying degrees of shyness. Some people simply can't face crowd and then there are some who want to live like hermits, totally cut off from the world. That's not the way one should be living their life. Some shy people treat shyness as a cocoon. The cocoon provides them warmth, quietness and aloofness. At the same time, it is very dark, lonely and confining.
Ask the family and friends to support and guide you. When faced with difficult situations, rely on them to seek pointers and guidance. When you are aware that there is someone out there to support you, life becomes much easier. Slowly and gradually, you will see that you are losing your fears and inhibitions. After gaining a social life, it will be interesting to see how easy it is to meet new people.
In order to overcome shyness, you can try out multiple things. If you want to make shyness a thing of past, start taking one step a day or week. While these pointers are good, there is more that can be done to erase shyness. - 31877
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